Ethics

This Code of Ethics serves as a comprehensive resource outlining the principles that guide my practice. I have worked diligently to ensure a safe, respectful, and empowering environment for all clients.

I acknowledge the context in which I practice somatic sex work is shaped by my experiences as a white, Western, transgender, polyamorous woman, and that these identities provide a lens that both informs and limits my perspective. As a white person, I practice the embodiment and obligation I have to actively dismantle my racism as created by covertly existing in and benefiting from a white supremacist society.

My work is intuitive and intimate. It does not have an agenda apart from the healing my clients desire and deserve. Its purpose is not to prove any scientific theory, and it is not governed by any boards, committees, or professional associations.

My work is guided by intuition, spirit, and the ancestors and completely led by the needs of my clients, whom I view as friends and community. I have been called on this path to serve. I do all that I do in service to the community.

I recognize myself as a sovereign being residing in the United States of America. The racist, misogynist, puritanical and patriarchal laws that govern this nation are not recognized by nature and my healing is natural. While my goal is to not break any laws this country holds over my spiritual practice, my unconventional healing at times toes the darkest part of the grey lines. Love, not sex, is my commodity – and even though they both occupy a complex space, my work welcomes both as a spiritual and energetic experience that is larger than any definition of sex taught in the western world.

Core Values & Principles

My five core values are self-discipline: having the ability to control my emotions and behavior; self-improvement: a commitment to personal growth, development, and understanding; responsibility: taking ownership for my actions and decisions and being accountable for their consequences; respect: treating others with dignity and consideration; and perseverance: the ability to keep going in the face of challenges and setbacks.

Principles that guide my actions in alignment with my core values.

1. I practice self-discipline, which I think of as the ability to recognize, understand, and adapt to my emotions and behavior. I have many tools at my disposal.

• I will be patient despite my experience of feelings and emotions.
• I will be conscious of my bias and prejudice, and I will continually practice what does not serve me and my clients.
• I will consider my privilege and how that informs my practice.
• I will be conscious of my internal judgments of others.
• If I notice that I am deregulated, I will pause, agree to a timeout and step away from the situation temporarily.

2. I make a commitment to self-improvement, which is a continual pursuit of personal growth, development, and understanding.

• I will practice meditation and movement daily to regulate my nervous system.
• I continually seek knowledge and guidance to improve myself with the intent that I may better serve others.
• I commit to continual professional education and understanding improving myself and my practice for my clients.
• I will practice learning and unlearning what does and doesn't serve me.
• I will build a network of like-minded people to strengthen our mutual growth potential.

3. I have a responsibility to take ownership for my actions and decisions and be accountable for their consequences.

• I will keep a council of three people who are wise and trustworthy to call me in when needed, and hold myself accountable.
• I will consciously listen to others even when I feel uncomfortable.
• I will consider other people's viewpoints and experiences, and ask follow-up questions when appropriate, to clarify my understanding.
• I will practice honesty by reflecting upon my improvements and my challenges.
• I will give other opinions the same consideration I do my own.

4. I respect others by treating people with dignity and consideration.

• I will practice consciousness of my privilege.
• I will separate myself from the world we live in that actively disenfranchises others.
• I will treat others in the ways that they want to be treated.
• I will carefully and consciously listen to others.
• I will center other people's experiences.

5. I will be persevering when I keep going in the face of challenges and setbacks.

• I will challenge myself to improve even when I don't feel like it.
• I will practice a growth mindset despite feelings of discomfort.
• I will practice noticing resistance in my body and actively dismantle it.
• I will grieve and embody my setbacks, learn from them, and move on.
• I will actively build a network and community around me to strengthen myself in the face of challenges, and aid me in my perseverance through them.

My Understanding of Love

Love is not sterile. The designation “client” shall apply only in a therapeutic situation comprised of me and the client(s). In any other context, I will refer to you however you are most comfortable, either simply as a friend, lover, or member of the community.

Love is communicative. I will discuss any objectives and parameters of the therapeutic relationship with the client so that the client may make informed decisions.

Love is not ownership. The therapeutic relationship I foster with my client is temporary, always within the context of the therapeutic and driven by the spiritual, physical and emotional welfare of the client. This relationship can end if it is terminated by mutual agreement or if the client voluntarily terminates the therapy.

Love is egoless. I will always recognize the boundaries and limitations of my competence. I will not attempt to use methods outside the range of my knowledge, training, and experience. If I think that the client will benefit from any additional methods, I will communicate this to the client and refer out accordingly.

Love is harmless. I may use physical touch if we decide that a touch based somatic approach to healing is desirable and appropriate. If I do so, I will always touch consciously and with the attitude to do no harm, with concern for the client's growth; for the safety of both/all parties; and to honor the agreed boundaries established. I will co-create clear agreements with my client before engaging in any form of bodywork.

Love is not loud. I will respect, defend, and preserve the privacy of all information gained from my client in physical and digital spaces. I will defend the anonymity of clients when using information for purposes of teaching, research, and supervision. The identity of a client, and all information received from or about them in the therapeutic situation, shall not be communicated outside the healing space without the client’s written permission, except under the following conditions.

Information about the client may be disclosed only:

1. When there is a clear and imminent danger to individuals or society, and then only to appropriate professional colleagues or public authorities. 
2. For the purpose of professional consultation with appropriate professional colleagues, if the identities of individuals are disguised to protect confidentiality.
3. For presentation of information to professional or lay groups, if the identities of individuals are disguised to protect confidentiality.

Love is safe. I hold and take full responsibility for adequate precautionary measures against the transmission of communicable diseases and infections. It is also my responsibility to determine that the client has taken similar precautions. I acknowledge the importance of physical, in addition to emotional, mental, spiritual and sexual well-being. To protect the health of both myself and my client, risk-reduction steps are taken to minimize any harm, in active collaboration with my client. Any break in the skin (abrasions, infection, rash, cut etc.) will require a rescheduling of any touch sessions, for both my own and my clients’ protection. Any sessions and all group classes will always include education about hygiene protocol, with sufficient facilities/supplies provided to clients to maintain appropriate hygiene.

Love is caring. I will recognize any personal issues I may have that could possibly affect my work and take appropriate measures to protect and serve your clients by taking breaks from contact with clients. Spiritual, emotional and physical ailments must be resolved before resuming touching or coaching, and clients will be referred to other healers if I am incapacitated in any way due to personal issues.

Love is consensual. I recognize the importance of consent and choice in all interactions with individuals and groups. Clients will NEVER be required or coerced to participate in any activity, event, or exercise. I will inform and educate my clients about consent and choice throughout our relationship, and actively create learning environments where clients are empowered to exercise those skills.

Love is not greedy. I recognize the relationship between the healer and the healing as one of privilege, and will never seek a favor or advantage granted or expected in return for healing work offered. I understand the inherent inequality of power we hold relative to clients in our role of practitioner/teacher and agree not to use this power for the sexual, emotional, financial, or spiritual exploitation of Clients.

Love is not lust. I will not seek to fulfill my erotic appetites with my client. In the therapeutic space, erotic touch is unidirectional, healer to client. If clients wish to learn and practice interpersonal erotic skills, I request they bring their partners or invite them to share and learn with a surrogate lover. If I fulfill the role of surrogate, I am always conscious of that, and make clients conscious that sessions will neither fulfill any desire for romantic or sexual relationships outside the professional setting.